I’m done with the dating site, Our Time. The men don’t seem to want to date. They reach out, chat and disappear. The last one I talked to actually made a date, canceled, apologized profusely and then disappeared. If they’re not squirrely then they aren’t a fit for various reasons like they live halfway across the country or they’re 20 years younger. I’m done. It’s time to find a different pond to fish in.
Online dating no longer has the stigma it had early on. When I’ve met someone friends have asked how I met him and I would blush and whisper, “Online.” According to Pew Internet 15 percent of Americans have used an online dating site or dating app and they report five percent are either in a relationship or married to someone they met online.
But which site is right for you? And do you want to be on multiple sites? You’ll have to start there.
What a coincidence that a reader reached out to share a link to their dating site review post.
Reviews.com looked at 68 dating sites. Wow. I had no clue that there that many dating sites. I was aware of Tinder, eHarmony, OkCupid, Plenty of Fish and more. But 68 blew my mind.
They analyzed web-traffic and looked at which site’s algorithm led to the best results. Is there a magic algorithm? Certainly Our Time’s algorithm is off based on the results I’ve seen. They have even recommended women to me. Ugh. It was time for a change.
The folks at Review.com conducted such a thorough and methodical deep dive into these sites and landed OkCupid at the top of the list for the quality of the profiles they served up and how well the profiles matched through their algorithm. Amazingly OkCupid is free. I’m not going to take their word as gospel. I’m going to try it for myself. Will OkCupid have men in my age range? I had chosen Our Time because it advertises itself as a place for older people. LOL! I have gotten flirts from 20 year olds to 80 year olds. Coincidentally, OkCupid is owned by the Match Group, which also owns Match.com. Plenty of Fish and Tinder sites.
What I discovered while signing up for OkCupid.
• Right out of the gate, they offer you a paid version called an “incognito mode” account to cut out what they call the creeps. I knew free was too good to be true.
• The algorithm wasn’t all that accurate. I was very specific about what I was looking for but that isn’t want I was served up.
• OkCupid serves up a compatibility score versus “enemy” score. That cracked me up.
• The platform is easier to navigate. And faster.
• Be prepared for an onslaught of conversation. Granted I can only compare OkCupid to Our Time, but I could have spent all day talking on the site.
• If you want to see who “liked” you you will have to pony up some money.
I need a little more time with OkCupid to give a final verdict. But I did meet three guys with potential. And I guess none of them are messy guys. LOL! And one guy got very nasty because I wouldn’t instantly give him my number–a clear sign he was up to no good.
Online dating does allow you to learn quite a bit about someone before you meet him or her. You just have to be careful, as there are quite a few scammers out there. You should never, never, never give any guy your money. Consider getting a separate email address.
And block your number using the following steps before calling anyone you meet online:
To block your number from being displayed temporarily for a specific call:
- Dial *67.
- Enter the number you wish to call (including area code).
- Tap the Call button. The words “Private,” “Anonymous,” or some other indicators will appear on the recipient’s phone instead of your mobile number.