Just around the corner is the month of love. February comes with conversation hearts, marriage proposals, romantic songs, and happy couples. So how can a single mom be happy on Valentine’s Day? Easily! We think Valentine’s Day should be a day of love whether you’re coupled or happily single with kids in your world. It should be a day of appreciation and gratitude for everything in your life. Here are a few reasons to enjoy being a single mom on the holiday of love.
It’s not counterintuitive to enjoy Valentine’s Day as a single mom with kids around. True love isn’t just about couples: it’s about all those people in your life that you care about. Kids are number one on most mom’s lists, so make the most of the day and bask in a little love and gratitude with the wee joys of your life.
1. Some people love the feeling of being independent and not dependent on anyone else for their happiness. That’s a worthy trait to show and pass on to the kids!
2. There’s something liberating about not worrying about Valentine’s expectations and simply focusing on yourself and your family instead.
3. There’s no pressure to produce the “perfect” Valentine’s Day gift. Guess what? Kids like cookies and cupcakes! They’re easy to please, so go ahead and make them happy!
4. Being single guarantees that you don’t have to worry about what the other person’s expectations for the day are. You can simply enjoy the day for what it is.
5. You can enjoy that Valentine’s Day candy in yoga pants, a way more comfortable option than doing so in a little black dress and much easier to get down on the floor and wrestle with the munchkins in!
6. Relationships are time consuming. Being a single mom, you can prioritize your kids, your friends, and your favorite activities, without the constant struggle of trying to balance out your relationship with these other things.
7. You’re confident in the fact that you’re not with the wrong person. Maybe Mr. Right will pop up in the next year. At least you know that you’re not wasting your time with Mr. Wrong. In the meantime, your kids are getting the best part of your love and attention and there’s nothing false in that.
8. As a single mom, you are a master planner and can focus your time where you want to spend it. That’s a gift in itself, so make the most of it. Even if it means bath time with a glass of wine is after bedtime for the littles, you can find a little time for just you, if you want to.
And for mom who doesn’t have her kids with her this Valentine’s Day, there’s no need to fret about being alone! Take the time instead to do something just for you:
- Interested in taking up yoga? Want to learn how to play the drums? Wish you could become a fashion blogger? Find love in a new hobby! Do something you haven’t done before or seldom get to do because of your family’s schedule.
- Schedule a spa day. Get a massage, a facial, or a pedicure with some of your other single friends. Do those things you can’t do when the kids are around. Take advantage of the time and don’t focus on the holiday.
- Show those you care about how much you love them. Make cookies and homemade Valentine’s Day cards and deliver them to friends and family. Guaranteed it will be the best part of your day. Don’t forget to save some for when the kids get home! Even better if you set up a Valentine’s treasure hunt where the prize is pink cupcakes! Yum!
- Have a party and invite other single friends over for wine and cheese. Have everyone bring over a Valentine’s Day themed dessert. Everyone can be dressed in pink or red. Play fun games like Truth or Dare and sing karaoke.
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