A Love Note to My Daughter


282645_10151832508520230_152675678_nWhen I was in college like you, I had a life drawing class and the instructor told stories about New York City. Sight unseen, I became obsessed with the idea of going to New York. Your grandpa was totally against it. He said I’d never make any money and that it was a waste. But I really wanted to be here. I thought if I got an internship, it would give me some valuable work experience and I’d be able to go back to Michigan and get a job because I had “New York” on my resume. So off I went with a suitcase full of new clothes–I even had suits and blouses with bows. My mom was so proud of those suits.

My internship was working for a sales promotion agency. It was like working at the UN of agencies. There was a German paste up guy, a Swedish illustrator, a Romanian paste up guy and the creative director was from Puerto Rico. There was also an ancient Chinese guy. One day out of the blue, he said to me, “Some day you will be famous.” I remember staring at him incredulously. After all he was an ancient Chinese man with a flowing beard and strange fingernails so I figured he had some mystic way of knowing. It always stuck in the back of my mind and in some way I pushed myself in an effort to live up to his expectations.

The internship turned into a job and I fell in love with New York City and I only went back to Michigan for visits. Over the years, I’ve often wondered why I came here. The rest of the family is still in Michigan. What was the reason I ended up in crazy New York City? There had to be some meaning to it. After all, New York is not the easiest town to live in.

Then I gave birth to you.  One day ages ago, I realized that the reason I left my family was for you and it’s not me that will be famous as the old Chinese guy predicted it, it will be you. You are building the pieces that some day will come together.  It hasn’t happened yet, but it will. It just takes patience, hard work–the kind you are putting in right now. And you just have to believe in yourself.

You have done so much in your short life from acting, modeling and being a brand ambassador for Seventeen and Dormify. You’ve learned social media. And though it doesn’t seem like your life is going where you want it to go right now, some day it will all make sense.  I used to think I screwed up my career because I hadn’t been singularly focused on one discipline, but now marketing has been turned on it’s head and that crazy path makes sense. You just have to stay the course and it will eventually all fall into place. I’m so proud of you.

Love Mom

Do you ever wonder why your life is where it is?

2 Responses to “A Love Note to My Daughter”

  1. What a thoughtful and poignant post. Your daughter is lucky to have you as a mother and hope the old man’s prophecy comes true for your daughter!

    Bicultural Mama

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