Every time I ask a friend how they met someone they are dating the answer has been through an online dating service. But online dating is for losers…those desperate to find someone, right? But even though there creepers and stalkers and a fair amount of misrepresentation online, it seems people are flocking to online sites. And those I know swear by it.
It appears online dating no longer has the stigma I would have thought and has become a perfectly acceptable way to meet someone. Inordinate work hours leave people with few options for meeting someone. And most women don’t ever feel comfortable meeting someone at a bar especially when you’re no longer in your 20s.
In fact, according to a recent study in October 2013 by Pew Internet, one in 10 Americans have used an online dating service. Just look at these stats:
• 11% of Internet users (representing 9% of all adults) say that they have personally used an online dating site such as Match.com, eHarmony, or OK Cupid.
• 7% of cell phone apps users (representing 3% of all adults) say that they have used a dating app on their cell phone.
• 59% of all Internet users agree with the statement that “online dating is a good way to meet people,” a 15-point increase from the 44% who said so in 2005.
• 53% of internet users agree with the statement that “online dating allows people to find a better match for themselves because they can get to know a lot more people,” a 6-point increase from the 47% who said so in 2005.
And the Internet is a great way to check up and search for information on someone you might be dating. I’ve made it a standard practice. One man I met at the gym swore he was divorced but a quick Google search brought up photos of him at charity events with wife. Everyone has some kind of digital footprint.
And if you are going to do this, elicit a friend to help. Pew found women, like directions, are twice as likely as a man to ask for help creating their profile. Writing about you is one of the hardest things to do.
Have you used an online dating service?